I had no idea that some kids end up feeling even worse after seeing Facebook updates of their happy looking friends having a good time. Apparently it’s called “Facebook Depression”. Right, those status updates are so “in-your-face” and more often than not, bragging the hell out of oneself, as I covered earlier on my advice for these people. Dr. Gwenn O’Keeffe, a Boston-area pediatrician and lead author of new American Academy of Pediatrics social media guidelines, said that “…it can be more painful than sitting alone in a crowded school cafeteria or other real-life encounters that can make kids feel down, because Facebook provides a skewed view of what’s really going on. Online, there’s no way to see facial expressions or read body language that provide context.”
No doubt Facebook can be a popularity contest for those who aspire to be followed or idolized, regardless of what age they are at. I choose to play no part of that. I use Facebook to let my friends know whenever a blog post is published, and I leave it at that. I believe some may find it annoying if they don’t find my posts relevant to their liking, and they might have hid my updates using the site’s privacy settings. For those who are tolerant enough to leave me unhid, I choose not to add to their burden by planting self-promoting catch-phrases on each update like some people I know. I choose to let my friends and readers decide whether my posts are crap or inspiring, and I am not going to rob them out of their freedom to make their own judgements.
Well, if it’s a commercial establishment then it’s another story. However, Facebook is Facebook. I would like to see it remain as a social networking platform, at least on my news feed page.
The other form of “Facebook Depression” lies with relationship matters. I come across this Top 10 Facebook Etiquette Rules on Relationships from yourtango.com which is just too hilarious not to share.
- Relationship status is a mutual decision.
- It’s OK to look through your friend’s friends for people you might want to meet/ date/ friend. It’s not OK to skip the middleman on the introduction.
- Ask first before friending a close friend’s ex-squeeze.
- It’s OK to remain friends with someone you used to date on Facebook.
- Posting a ton of pictures, videos and comments regarding a recent, failed relationship is a bad idea.
- As with all things, there is such thing as too much information.
- This is sort of an addendum to 2 previous rules, but it bears its own space: don’t friend an ex’s new squeeze if you’re not actually friends.
- Know the difference between the Wall and a message.
- Again, the interweb is not a therapy session and shouldn’t be used with severely impaired judgment.
- Above all other rules (in this actually is in the Facebook rules), do not create a fake page as a way to punish an ex.
Don’t you just love this? For the complete write-up with clarifications and examples (if you ever need anything more really), check this out.
Happy Facebooking, and don’t end up making yourself look laughable or pityful, please.
Hi,
Nice post about Facebook usage. I just wrote an article summing up a whole bunch of different studies and surveys about Facebook addiction, the concept of frenemies, and why depression and other things affect heavy social media users.
Here’s the link if you want to check it out:
http://wp.me/p1fNJu-cv
We’re also conducting a survey on Facebook usage, check it out here:
http://www.surveytool.com/responders/index/id/1538
Hi Zack, thank you. I cannot really take credit as I just pull together a couple of findings and observations from others which I find inspiring. I really like your informative post, and I filled in your survey just now.
Keep me updated of any interesting new findings and survey results.