Confessions of a Corporate Shopaholic

I’m sure you have experienced some form of heart wrenching moments in your life, and though it might not necessarily be your greatest moments, they are still worth remembering.  Obviously I have experienced my fair share, and to be honest I do try my very best to see the silver lining of every one of them.  I won’t agree that this is self-deceiving, as I believe withering away in my own demise isn’t something I am thrilled about.

Sometimes listening to the signs of your body is pretty amazing.  When I feel that the left side of my chest (aka my heart) starts to grip slowly sending sour emotional notes up my brain, I know I have gone into areas that matter.  You know sometimes we are lost as to what we are fighting for and what’s it all about in life, just because we tend to follow paths where they are all decided for us.  It’s these late night heart wrenching moments which remind me that I am alive and human, and my organic human needs lie with my family, my relationships and my beliefs.

A few lines from Yahoo’s associated content:

“Sorrow is usually accompanied by tears and much pain. The pain from sorrow is definitely more acute than physical pain because it is something which cannot be alleviated by medicine. Some people have described the pain sadness as the breaking of the heart.”

” Although sorrow is something unavoidable, we must also learn how to deal with it so that it does not develop into manic depression. The only way to deal effectively with sorrow is to come to terms with the loss which triggered it. Accepting that what has happened cannot be altered and coping with life thereafter is the best way to combat depression. Although it is not a fool-proof cure, because the memories remain; carrying on with life is the best possible antidote. For the inexplicable sorrow which is triggered from innocuous events, it should not be allowed to overwhelm us so much that we lose self-control and sink into despair.”

Amanda Harvey has the following to say on her life-coaching portal:

“To feel the pain, is to stop fighting the nature of reality. In Buddhism it is said that pain or sorrow is as much a part of our life as joy. The difference that we can bring to the pain that we experience is whether or not we allow it to cause us suffering.

Very few people want to feel pain. It is not nice or pleasant, but it is inevitable. Whether our pain brings suffering to our lives is largely dependent on how we handle it. Suffering is always caused by a conflict between what we believe reality should be, and what reality actually is. Fighting against reality does not change what is happening in our lives, but rather, it intensifies and distorts the pain of difficult experiences.

By allowing ourselves to feel, rather than fight the sorrow of life’s tough times, we can move through the pain much faster, and experience it as a pure sensation rather than an inner turmoil. Fear of feeling pain is almost always worse than the pain itself, and giving into the pain can actually lessen its intensity.

If you are going to experience sorrow, as part of the human experience, why complicate the issue with resistance, fear, and suppression? By allowing yourself to feel the pain when it comes, you also open your heart to making a quick recovery, and to being able to fully experience the joy that will also come, as surely as night follows day.”

Right on.  The keyword for me is allowing ourselves to feel rather than combating sorrow full frontal.  Feel it, live it, accept it and move on from it.